When I wrote my post as to why I didn’t think Michael B. Jordan was bashing black people—particularly women—in his GQ interview, I was simply trying to address some of the allegations plaguing him as a self-hater. In each article I read, there were a minority of positive comments and content. It left me wondering, what did Michael B. Jordan do to black women to receive such disapproving feedback from the black community? As a black woman, I was included in the supposed disparaging comments he made, so I wanted to weigh in on the issue.
For starters, I find him a talented actor and an attractive guy. I don’t stand alone as to why he has been given the moniker Michael “Bae” Jordan or articles that collage his sexiest pictures here, here and here. So to get that out the way, he’s cute.
Recently, a response to that blog post by someone who strongly disagreed with my opinion and perspective described it as “pathetic” and accused me of caping for MBJ because he was attractive. This logic is completely understandable but absolutely debatable, primarily because my entire blog is focused on issues pertaining to the black community and women.
It was the voices of black women, which prompted me to write the piece anyways.
I get it. When our ideal, flawless and faultless perception of celebrities is questioned it sends us turning away versus turning another ear. I get it. But what I don’t get is to conjecture that a man is a misogynistic-macho-sexist-self-hating-coon because he might have expressed himself a little too poorly. That’s what my main focus was, not whether MBJ doesn’t like dating black women, but whether people knew he never made those types of comments in the first place (if based on that specific interview).
It’s similar to when Marshawn “Beast Mode” Lynch of the Seattle Seahawks described his perfect woman in a XXL interview as being fair-skinned and he was accused of having an inferiority complex and a colorist because he said “fair-skinned”, which a blogger described as being the same to light-skin.
One of the main reasons I do not take offense when black men say they don’t date black women is because it’s a matter of preference. I may not agree with it but I’m not going to hold them to the fire for it. If you don’t like to date black women, white women, Hispanic women, Asian women, Caribbean women, Latin women, fine but do not disrespect them. I wholeheartedly believe one does not have to put a race on a pedestal to validate their prejudices. My post was to highlight how he never directly or indirectly threw black women under the bus.
I think when people say they don’t see color they’re trying to be politically correct to avoid controversy and remain neutral. People are going to say whatever they can to help combat racism even if it is a little elementary.
Interestingly enough, I’ve noticed that black women or men don’t get as nearly offended when a black women says she likes to date non-black men. Sometimes, she’ll be met with high fives. Black women really are not subject to the same criticism. For some reason, at some point and time in recent history, we have been taught and sort of accepted that white men treat black women better.
Now, I can’t validate that because I haven’t given up on the brothas. I know douchebags come in all colors, nationalities and credit scores.
At the end of the day, I feel like we (as black people) can’t always be so quick to say we’re no longer supporting someone from our community just because we may not agree with their preference.
So, you may call it caping. You may call it safeguarding. You may call it thirst. I call it knowing what you like, what you don’t and being okay with that.