My name is Kimberly Brown and I’m the founder and editor of ManifestYourself.com. I call myself a whole life strategist. I do one on one coaching. I really help people get their whole life together, from developing actual plans to helping people achieve their goals. I think I’m always trying to manifest myself. I’m always trying to do something.
In my [previous] marriage the blog wasn’t really a point of contention, but it wasn’t really understood. My vision wasn’t really understood. Once the divorce happened, I threw myself into other things and just started to flourish. I don’t really have a point in time when things started to get better [after the divorce], but I’ll say I’ve consistently been working at it even when it sucks. Even when I don’t know why I’m still doing it, even when I don’t want to work anymore and I’m like, “Why can’t I just be a regular person with a 9-5?”
I was born and raised in Connecticut. I was the only minority from kindergarten until 12th grade. I was the one. In my school pictures, you could say, “There she is, there’s Kim”.
My mom will joke and tell you that when I was two or three, she held me on the counter and said, “Why does this chick have hips? She’s a baby!”
I’d say I probably didn’t get confident until probably the past two, three years. I’m 28 and I finally feel like this is what I look like. I’m working on it. I think I’m more comfortable now than ever. I recently went to Hawaii on this retreat. It is where you go when you’ve gone through something. The pool was clothing optional. We weren’t prepared for that so we were a little nervous, but the woman in orientation said, “When you shed your clothes in public, you shed 200 years of shame”. I was like, you know what, this is my vacation; I’m going to do it. So, we took our clothes off and showered. I jumped in the pool. I’d be lying if I didn’t say I didn’t feel any different after that because it was just so freeing to do it… like it’s just skin.
I’m not a “beat face” girl. I’m the girl who, most the time, you’re going to see me with a little bit of coconut oil on. When my face broke out, I wore makeup every day. Now, I go to the gym, I put a little coconut oil on, some lip-gloss, and go into work.
My beauty thing is not really product related. I have a morning practice where I try and get up and meditate. I’ll do some journaling. I’ll do affirmations for myself. So, in terms of a beauty routine, I’m very simple.
My hair is natural but this isn’t mine [laughs]! What had happened was, a few years ago I put a Keratin treatment in my hair and all my hair fell out. Now, I have a little fro.
I love Shea moisture products. I seal my hair with some coconut oil or Castor oil. I put a little castor oil for my edges. I also put it in my eyebrows and on my eyelashes. I bought the disposable wands to apply it to my lashes.
I’m big on facemasks. I love Earth Kiss. They have a sheet mask that comes in a packet that I’m obsessed with. I do those at least once a week. I’m very simple with my face care. I should probably do something else, but I love Coconut oil on my face. I also love Kari Gran’s oil cleanser.
I think now, more than ever, you can see brown women doing great things. But then I still feel like it’s a little hard. Maybe it’s just me, but I definitely feel the pressure to represent. I don’t want to go out there and I don’t want to half-step. I don’t want to mess up publicly. But we’re human, and humans make mistakes.
Brown girls should know that they’re great. You’re great in whatever piece of your life you’re at. You are still great when you’re crying on the bathroom floor. You just have to find what your thing is. Everybody has a thing, even when you feel like you don’t. Everybody has that thing that makes them powerful. Once you know it you can step into it.
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